Have you recognized patterns in your relationships? Have you thought you just attract a certain kind of man?

Yes – we do have patterns, but we attract what we reflect. For example, if we attract a seemingly unavailable man, look  at yourself, are you available to you? Most likely not – so make a note to be aware of that.

Let’s look deeper into your patterns:

• Are there behaviors that trigger certain feelings?
• What beliefs are you holding that support these continued patterns?
• Would you call these dysfunctional patterns?
• Do you want these patterns to continue? Is anything positive coming from the dysfunctional patterns?

As you’re able to notice patterns, you can release them – or work toward releasing them. What you need to do here is first, forgive yourself.

We have no control over other people

Now that you’ve identified some patterns, let’s clear some space – get rid of the fear, hurt, dysfunction, etc. – and make room for good stuff!! 

• First things first – forgive yourself for the patterns you’ve recognized. You may not have been aware of them previously or where they came from, but now that you’re acknowledging them, you can choose to release them.
• When you clear out your inner sh*t, it gives other more space to show up.

For example, if one of your patterns is to get clingy and needy when something feels a little off, then he pulls away and you get even more clingy, needy and scared so you pull away. Nothing good can ever come of this.

• When something like this happens just stop. Seriously, just stop. Stop thinking, stop ruminating. Just stop.
  This loop can be super-scary, trust me, I’ve been there. You don’t have to change how you feel just stop the negative thoughts – you don’t have to change them. Listen to me closely – you don’t have to change what you’re thinking, just stop thinking it and start thinking positive, loving thoughts. When you switch your thoughts to positive and loving it takes all of the power away from the negative. 
• Love yourself. “Send” him love.
• Be thankful for you. “Send” him gratitude.
• Forgive yourself. “Send” him forgiveness.
• Give yourself compassion. “Send’ him compassion.
• Give yourself understanding. “Send” him understanding.
• Release the fear you’re having. Release any pressure you’ve inadvertently put on him.

If you’re not terribly familiar with feelings, energy and frequencies the concept of “sending” feelings may feel a little strange. But I promise you, it’s real and it works.

• All you have to do is say in your mind and feel in your heart, “I send him love, I send him compassion”. Make sure that you’re actively loving you and giving yourself compassion. 
• The trick is to feel all of this, you’ll be feeling it and therefore attracting it and sending it to him.

I hope this makes sense and I hope you’re not overwhelmed. There is so much to all of this, but this is a surface-level introduction for the purpose of this training. We’ll circle back through all of this throughout the remainder of the 13 days. (Lucky 13!!)

Have you recognized patterns in your relationships? Have you thought you just attract a certain kind of man?

Yes – we do have patterns, but we attract what we reflect. For example, if we attract a seemingly unavailable man, look  at yourself, are you available to you? Most likely not – so make a note to be aware of that.

Let’s look deeper into your patterns:

• Are there behaviors that trigger certain feelings?
• What beliefs are you holding that support these continued patterns?
• Would you call these dysfunctional patterns?
• Do you want these patterns to continue? Is anything positive coming from the dysfunctional patterns?

As you’re able to notice patterns, you can release them – or work toward releasing them. What you need to do here is first, forgive yourself.

We have no control over other people

Have you recognized patterns in your relationships? Have you thought you just attract a certain kind of man?

Yes – we do have patterns, but we attract what we reflect. For example, if we attract a seemingly unavailable man, look  at yourself, are you available to you? Most likely not – so make a note to be aware of that.

Let’s look deeper into your patterns:

• Are there behaviors that trigger certain feelings?
• What beliefs are you holding that support these continued patterns?
• Would you call these dysfunctional patterns?
• Do you want these patterns to continue? Is anything positive coming from the dysfunctional patterns?

As you’re able to notice patterns, you can release them – or work toward releasing them. What you need to do here is first, forgive yourself.

We have no control over other people

PATTERNS

Have you recognized patterns in your relationships? Have you thought you just attract a certain kind of man?

Most of us do have patterns, but here’s the thing, our outside world reflects what’s going on inside of us. If we get stuck in dysfunctional loops, we must have a dysfunctional loop going on inside for it to be reflected in our outside, or physical world.

For example, if we attract seemingly unavailable men, look  at yourself, are you available to you? Most likely not – so make a note to be aware of that.

Let’s look a little deeper:

• Are there behaviors that trigger certain feelings?
• What beliefs are you holding that support these continued patterns?
• Would you call these dysfunctional patterns?
• Do you want these patterns to continue? Is anything positive coming from the dysfunctional patterns?

As you’re able to notice patterns, you can release them – let them go. You can use the flipping the switch visualization for this too,.

Now that you’ve identified some patterns, let’s clear some space – get rid of the fear, hurt, dysfunction, etc. – and make room for good stuff!! 

• First things first – forgive yourself for the patterns you’ve recognized. You may not have been aware of them previously or where they came from, but now that you’re acknowledging them, you can choose to release them.
• When you clear out your inner sh*t, it gives others more space to show up.

For example, if one of your patterns is to get clingy and needy when something feels a little off, then he pulls away and you get even more clingy, needy and scared so you pull away. Nothing good can ever come of this.

• When something like this happens just stop. Flip the off switch (See day 2). Stop thinking, stop ruminating. Just stop.
  This loop can be super-scary, trust me, I’ve been there. You don’t have to change how you feel just stop the negative thoughts – you don’t have to change them. Listen to me closely – you don’t have to change what you’re thinking, just stop thinking it and start thinking positive, loving thoughts. When you switch your thoughts to positive and loving it takes all of the power away from the negative. 
• Love yourself. “Send” him love.
• Be thankful for you. “Send” him gratitude.
• Forgive yourself. “Send” him forgiveness.
• Give yourself compassion. “Send’ him compassion.
• Give yourself understanding. “Send” him understanding.
• Release the fear you’re having. Release any pressure you’ve inadvertently put on him.

If you’re new to the concept of energy, “sending” feelings may feel a little strange. But I promise you, it’s real and it works.

• All you have to do is say in your mind and feel in your core, “I send him love, I send him compassion and understanding”. Make sure that you’re actively loving you and giving yourself compassion and understanding too. 
• The trick is to feel all of this, you’ll be feeling it and therefore attracting it.

If you’re new to the concept of “attraction”, this is a great place for you to start, explaining what it is, how it works and how, like energy, it can be used to your advantage, as well as your disadvantage.