BOUNDARIES
Personal boundaries are basically the set of rules we set in dealing with other people. 

• They define how close we’ll allow someone, emotionally, physically, sexually.
• They can define what we’re comfortable sharing or talking about.
• They can define the type of behavior we’re comfortable being around.
• They can define how much we’re comfortable do to help someone.
• Some other boundaries are financial, spiritual and political.

It can be very difficult to set personal boundaries, but we need to remember that we’re setting them out of respect for ourself, for our own good.

SETTING BOUNDARIES

RESPECTING SOMEONE ELSE’S BOUNDARIES
This can be very difficult, but it’s very important that we do it – respecting boundaries set by other people the same way we would want someone else to respect our’s.

Now that you’ve identified some patterns, let’s clear some space – get rid of the fear, hurt, dysfunction, etc. – and make room for good stuff!! 

• First things first – forgive yourself for the patterns you’ve recognized. You may not have been aware of them previously or where they came from, but now that you’re acknowledging them, you can choose to release them.
• When you clear out your inner sh*t, it gives other more space to show u

For example, if one of your patterns is to get clingy and needy when something feels a little off, then he pulls away and you get even more clingy, needy and scared so you pull away. Nothing good can ever come of this.

• When something like this happens just stop. Seriously, just stop. Stop thinking, stop ruminating. Just stop.
  This loop can be super-scary, trust me, I’ve been there. You don’t have to change how you feel just stop the negative thoughts – you don’t have to change them. Listen to me closely – you don’t have to change what you’re thinking, just stop thinking it and start thinking positive, loving thoughts. When you switch your thoughts to positive and loving it takes all of the power away from the negative. 
• Love yourself. “Send” him love.
• Be thankful for you. “Send” him gratitude.
• Forgive yourself. “Send” him forgiveness.
• Give yourself compassion. “Send’ him compassion.
• Give yourself understanding. “Send” him understanding.
• Release the fear you’re having. Release any pressure you’ve inadvertently put on him.

If you’re not terribly familiar with feelings, energy and frequencies the concept of “sending” feelings may feel a little strange. But I promise you, it’s real and it works.

• All you have to do is say in your mind and feel in your heart, “I send him love, I send him compassion”. Make sure that you’re actively loving you and giving yourself compassion. 
• The trick is to feel all of this, you’ll be feeling it and therefore attracting it and sending it to him.

I hope this makes sense and I hope you’re not overwhelmed. There is so much to all of this, but this is a surface-level introduction for the purpose of this training. We’ll circle back through all of this throughout the remainder of the 13 days. (Lucky 13!!)

Have you recognized patterns in your relationships? Have you thought you just attract a certain kind of man?

Yes – we do have patterns, but we attract what we reflect. For example, if we attract a seemingly unavailable man, look  at yourself, are you available to you? Most likely not – so make a note to be aware of that.

Let’s look deeper into your patterns:

• Are there behaviors that trigger certain feelings?
• What beliefs are you holding that support these continued patterns?
• Would you call these dysfunctional patterns?
• Do you want these patterns to continue? Is anything positive coming from the dysfunctional patterns?

As you’re able to notice patterns, you can release them – or work toward releasing them. What you need to do here is first, forgive yourself.

We have no control over other people

Have you recognized patterns in your relationships? Have you thought you just attract a certain kind of man?

Yes – we do have patterns, but we attract what we reflect. For example, if we attract a seemingly unavailable man, look  at yourself, are you available to you? Most likely not – so make a note to be aware of that.

Let’s look deeper into your patterns:

• Are there behaviors that trigger certain feelings?
• What beliefs are you holding that support these continued patterns?
• Would you call these dysfunctional patterns?
• Do you want these patterns to continue? Is anything positive coming from the dysfunctional patterns?

As you’re able to notice patterns, you can release them – or work toward releasing them. What you need to do here is first, forgive yourself.

We have no control over other people