It’s day 1 and we’re jumping right into the foundation of all of our relationships, the one we have with ourself – the girl in the mirror.

If you’re at all familiar with me, you’ll know that I believe that the relationship we have with ourself is the foundation upon which all of our other relationships are built. Period.

Mirroring and inadvertent manifestation are two concepts that I really want you to get a handle on –

Mirroring

• If we have a dysfunctional relationship with ourself we’re going to have dysfunctional relationships with other people.
• If we treat ourself like crap, other people are going to treat us like crap.

Our outside world is a mirror-reflection of whatever is going on inside of us, a very simplified explanation is, people are going to treat us the way we treat ourself.

• Do you feel like you always attract unavailable men?? Men that don’t give you the respect you deserve, or the attention you desire? Are you giving it to yourself?
• What about men who are disrespectful and unappreciative. Do you respect and appreciate your self?
• Do you feel like people “always” lie to you? Are you honest with yourself?
• Do you feel like men just want sex from you? Is that the only thing you think you’re worth? Is that the only thing you think you contribute to the relationship? Do you think that’s all you’re worth (to him)? 

• If we don’t accept ourself – for whatever reason – other people are going to be unaccepting of us,  in part because we’ll expect it and it will happen..
• If we’re insecure about something and it’s an issue for us, we’re going to expect it to be an issue, then it will be.

Inadvertent manifestation happens when you basically worry something into happening. Basically – manifestation occurs when you feel something into existence, when done on purpose, it’s a very positive experience for all the good things. 

When done inadvertently, it’s because we’ve believed with all of our feelings that something bad is going to happen. Like, we’re sooo worried about something that we feel it in our soul that it’s going to happen, we’re so scared of this things happening that it’s what we believe when we go to sleep, it’s what we believe when we wake up.

I’ve done this – and it really sucks.

At the time, I didn’t know what I was doing as I was doing it.  My manifestation-education started after.

I’m giving you a surface level into to this because, if you’re doing it, I want you to be able to recognize what you’re doing and STOP!!! IMMEDIATELY!!

Look at every relationship in your life, and be honest – this will not help you if you’re not honest – you’re going to find that you have the same “issues” in every relationship you’re engaged in, the same in how you are treated and how you treat others.

When I finally took a step back and evaluated all of my relationships, I saw that very thing. Everyone in my life was treating me the same way and it was very disconcerting, even more so when I realized that I was treating the people who weren’t, the way everyone else was treating me.

That may have been kind of hard to follow.

Even though I knew I was smart, everyone expected me to be the dumb blonde and the bimbo. Playing that “role” was not a conscious decision, it was a subconscious “slip” that I recognized many years after the fact.

Take a long hard look at you, if you’re honest with yourself, after looking hard and deep in the mirror, you’ll realize that you are not giving it to yourself.

But think about this too as a

• When something like this happens just stop. Seriously, just stop. Stop thinking, stop ruminating. Just stop.
  This loop can be super-scary, trust me, I’ve been there. You don’t have to change how you feel just stop the negative thoughts – you don’t have to change them. Listen to me closely – you don’t have to change what you’re thinking, just stop thinking it and start thinking positive, loving thoughts. When you switch your thoughts to positive and loving it takes all of the power away from the negative. 
• Love yourself. “Send” him love.
• Be thankful for you. “Send” him gratitude.
• Forgive yourself. “Send” him forgiveness.
• Give yourself compassion. “Send’ him compassion.
• Give yourself understanding. “Send” him understanding.
• Release the fear you’re having. Release any pressure you’ve inadvertently put on him.

If you’re not terribly familiar with feelings, energy and frequencies the concept of “sending” feelings may feel a little strange. But I promise you, it’s real and it works.

• All you have to do is say in your mind and feel in your heart, “I send him love, I send him compassion”. Make sure that you’re actively loving you and giving yourself compassion. 
• The trick is to feel all of this, you’ll be feeling it and therefore attracting it and sending it to him.

I hope this makes sense and I hope you’re not overwhelmed. There is so much to all of this, but this is a surface-level introduction for the purpose of this training. We’ll circle back through all of this throughout the remainder of the 13 days. (Lucky 13!!)